The 21 Day Fiasco

Aug 12, 2011 by

It’s official. When I make myself do something I will dig my heels in. I need to want to do something or else I will find all sorts of excuses to stay away from it. Twice I have started with the intention to blog 21 days in a row. This second time around I gained a few valuable points of awareness. I am learning to honor the way I do things.

I don’t have something worth saying every single day. 

I don’t want to post if it’s going to be blathering on. Your time is valuable to me. I like to have a point. I share my experiences to provide insight into my life with the hope that you may find comfort in my words, and maybe even avoid the same mistakes I have made. Ideally you may find some of my tips useful and be able to feel a little bit better.

I don’t want to type every single day.

The interesting thing about this revelation has been that it’s playing a mind game with me. I get stuck on the idea that I said I would post for 21 days so I must be a failure when that doesn’t happen. Surely there must have been something wrong with me. I just can’t keep my word, etc. Blah, blah, blah.

The truth of the matter is that I should have known better. I get all fired up about an idea when I first experience it and then my attention tends to wander to my next brilliant idea shortly thereafter.

It doesn’t mean I’m a loser.

It just means that something else has caught my attention.

I’ve been reading a book (one of about 15 at the moment…yes, seriously) titled Refuse To Choose by Barbara Sher. She talks about a type of person she calls a “Scanner.” Basically it is someone who sees a lot of different things that get their attention, but end up not doing anything because they feel the weight of a society that says finishing a task is the only way to go. It gives a person permission to shift from project to project and understand that it’s not a fatal flaw in our personality. It’s just a different way of doing things.

A brilliant gem I found in the pages of the book is that I can make a to do list and do the thing I find the most fun…and to only spend a few minutes on it. It really breaks the task into something I can get into instead of avoiding it.

I found that I was blogging in my head constantly, and I may have even jotted down a note on paper or my phone. But when it came time to type I wouldn’t make the time.

So here’s the bottom line:

When I have to do something I won’t. When I let go and give myself the choice it’s easier.

When I resist the process I spin my wheels and get nowhere. When I trust the process and go with the flow I will move forward.

We have options. 

I may not have blogged for 21 days straight, but I learned that I probably never will. And that’s ok. It’s better to have longevity and quality. The same goes for our struggles. It’s better to build a solid foundation than to have one that will crumble beneath your feet.

Take the time to be sure you want it (whatever it is). It will be worth it in the end.

There is hope. Blessings all.

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

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