Living the Life of My Dreams
Every now and again I am fortunate enough to come across a book that is truly life changing. As you know, I have been struggling with my motivation lately and actively searching for ways to feel better. About a month ago a friend of mine, Caryn FitzGerald, shared an advanced copy of an ebook she compiled and co-wrote called Living the Life of My Dreams: Essays and Interviews with 30 Ordinary People Living EXTRAordinary Lives ~ Their Lessons Learned and How-to Secrets Revealed.
I was honestly floored by the encouragement I received by reading the stories in this book! I am so excited to share it with you guys because I know it will provide the bursts of inspiration that will help you feel better too.
In preparation for the arrival of this book, I asked Caryn a few questions about her journey that would be sure to lift us up and move us forward.
- What do you do to help yourself through the lows of life?
I remind myself that it’s ok to feel down or low at times, after all, how else would I recognize the ups and highs? Once I acknowledge that things may not be going the way I desire, I step back and evaluate the situation from the position of an observer. I ask myself what is really going on? What can I do to change the situation and redirect things to a higher plateau. I take care of myself the best I can, by not holding onto the negative, releasing the frustration that is accompanying the situation and filling myself up with positive energy. A huge gift for me is living on a lake in the country. When something negative or low slips into my life, my first instinct is to go out into my back yard and stare out at the lake, watch the birds fly overhead and take in deep, cleansing breaths. Everyone will have a different way of transitioning through a low point in life, the important thing to remember is that it will only remain a low for as long as you allow it to. Once you decide to release it, a shift will occur, moving you on into a more enjoyable period in time.
- As time has passed, do you still identify with your previous struggles (eating disorder or abuse) or have you moved past it? (My thought is talking about life after your “addiction” and to show that health and recovery is a very viable option, even if you still have it close to your heart or not).
I wouldn’t say I indentify with anorexia, bulimia or domestic violence on a daily basis. I do firmly believe that my experiences with eating disorders and abusive relationships have played a part in making me the person I am today. I’ve learned first hand how to deal with these struggles and what they can do to a person if left unaddressed. This allows me to assist others from the perspective of someone who has personally gone through what they are enduring.
I refer to myself as recovered as I consider anorexia, bulimia and abusive relationships as paths I will never walk again. Yet, they only way I can do this is to remind myself daily of the choice I am making to be healthy, happy and to treat my body, mind and soul with the utmost respect and caring. For me, my life experiences are built around what I focus upon. I choose to focus on positive, exciting, passion-filled things. Each day, I give myself the gift of surrounding myself with people around whom I cannot possibly think or act small. This gives me constant encouragement to continue to grow and create. Life for me, is all about who I want to be and what I want to contribute to the world.
- What are your favorite nuggets of inspiration to help someone feel better?
Look at life as a choice, not by chance.
Make conscious decisions.
What you fill your mind with is crucial.
Remember you have one life to live and the choice of how to live it is up to you.
Release judgment of ones self and others.
Life is a game. There is no right or wrong based upon what other people think, say or do.
The only person in charge of how you live is you. Go for what makes you feel good, set goals based on your passions and never allow yourself to lose sight of what is important to you.
- What is your biggest win?
I’ve forgiven myself and released the negative associations I held towards the choices I made early in life which lead me down a self-abusive and destructive path. I’ve made peace with my decisions and have learned from the experiences. Without them, my life would be totally different. I can’t say it would be better or worse, just different. I’m content with who I am and where I am going and that’s my biggest win. I love me!
- How important is it to have a dream?
As important as it is to eat or breath. Dreams are passion-filled desires that come from our heart and soul. They allow us to create goals and visions for our future. Without them, life is stagnant, bored and ones inspiration and creative energy is blocked.
Everyone deserves to have a dream. No matter how big or small it may be, it belongs to the individual and it gives them something to set their sights upon and to rise each morning looking and moving towards.
I encourage everyone to dream BIG!! And to keep their dreams close to their heart, focus upon it constantly and remember that no matter what your dream is, if you can see it in your minds eye, eventually the Universe will clear a path and bring to you all that is required to turn your dream into a reality.
Brilliant, right? If you would like to get your hands on a copy of this book, today would be a wonderful time to do so. On launch day (Wednesday March 09, 2011) Caryn is offering oodles of bonus gifts for you to enjoy when you purchase the book. It’s only $9.95 and the value it will have in your life is truly priceless. Purchase your book here!
As you’re enjoying your book I’d love to hear how it’s affected you so please be sure to comment or send me a note!
Caryn FitzGerald is a mother, wife, friend, writer, healthy foodist, nature lover, teacher, blogger, entrepreneur, coach, and overall lover of life!
She holds a masters degree and her formal training is as a mental health therapist. She spent many years working in both the prison system and the community sector assisting those facing challenges on redirecting their lifes path.
Caryn recovered from a decade long struggle with bulimia and anorexia and is a domestic violence survivor.
Her belief is that a full, abundant life can be created and enjoyed regardless of one’s past.
Today she enjoys the blessings of playing from home as a writer & speaker, fulfilling her passions by assisting others in learning the techniques required to create the life of their dreams.