Dump Your Shame!

Mar 29, 2010 by

Think of a time you did something wrong and you were ashamed of your behavior. Or how about the time someone else did it, but you still feel bad about it anyway.

Are you carrying it around with you? Has it become part of the baggage you drag around day to day?

I am ashamed to say that I have been struggling with the size and “quality” of my posts. I want to provide more substance for you…but that has been keeping me away from posting. I have created an ideal that I continually fall short on providing, so I don’t post. Then I beat myself up because I haven’t posted!

I am dumping that!

I’m done with the idea of an ideal size and/or quality.

I am perfect in my imperfection ~ and so are you!

Shameful feelings can be about things that are big or small. Either way they are just as valid because they hold us back in life and usually cause us to make silly moves. Our thoughts and actions can bury us if we let them. I’m ready to do something different…and I invite you to pick one thing in your life to dump the shame on as well. Start with one and then when you see how good it feels maybe you can kick another one to the curb!

Action idea:

  1. Write whatever it is that you’re ashamed of on a piece of paper.
  2. Now destroy it!
  • Crumble it up
  • Tear it up
  • Throw it away
  • Burn it
  • Flush it down the toilet
  • Stick it in a balloon
  • Feed it to your plants
  • Get creative!
Repeat as often as necessary to feel better!!!

Do whatever it takes to set yourself free.

This post is my freedom and it feels divine.  Look for more beautiful freedom to come.

I’d love to hear about your dumping experiences. Please leave your comments below. Sharing our struggles and triumphs brings us together and makes us even stronger.

Create a beautiful day, my friends.  Please remember to share this post if you think it might help someone else :-)

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  1. b

    why does this make me teary eyed and want to cry and go back to bed defeated. how can you dump your shame when people you have to interact with because you have children with them, wont let you forget all the shame ful things you have done. how do you dump the shame when they constantly remind you and have a fiance that exaggerates and tells everyone they know all the shameful stuff you’ve done and what a horrible person you are. how can you dump your shame when no one lets you forget the shame. it makes you just give up. i want to just cry and cry over this article. it makes sense and i would love to dump alot of stuff, but some people wont let me. they hold grudges and have memories of elephants. they dont dump shame of others. they remember and spread it to others so others remember as well.

    • I hear your pain…and I also hear you leaving your life, and worth, in the hands of others. Have you made mistakes in life? Yep, probably. Do they define you? Absolutely not.

      As you know, I had a severe gambling addiction. I lost my money, my dignity and my respect for myself. I started believing people when they told me I was just a degenerate gambler. That I’d never amount to anything. I finally reached a point when I started getting tired of what they said. I was ready to start dumping that heavy, dreadful, disgusting shame I was feeling.

      How do you feel about yourself? I’d start working on the relationship you have inside. I understand that you have children with him. I understand that the words are hurting you.

      My fear is that you are abandoning yourself. When I was gambling, Jane was that small voice I had inside me saying that I was worthy, whole and ok. When I didn’t care, and didn’t see any way out, that small voice was there. If I got really quiet, I could hear it…and when I was hurting badly enough I may actually listen, even if it was for just a little bit. And then I listened a little more. Eventually I saw the hands that were there for me to hold. The people who understood me and who believed in me. I used their strength to help me through.

      As my head was getting more clear I realized that I was listening to a ton of crap from too many bad people. I made a conscious decision to surround myself with the good. Crying is a wonderful awareness. You know that something is hurting you and it needs to change. This may sound overly simple right now, but, it’s up to you to make the decision to change it. And I know you can do it. You are a strong woman. Just decide you’re worth it…and begin the dumping process.

      My hand is here…you know where to find me. (((B)))


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