Be Your Own Hero

Sep 25, 2009 by

knightHave you ever sat around wondering about how much better your life would be if only someone would come save you?

I spent most of the time in relationships thinking that they would get better if only my partner would decide that they really wanted to be with me. Surely they would change the way they were doing things and save us. I used to hope that my wusband (he was my husband) would go to counseling with me. It was as though he held the fate of our relationship in his hands.

When I was in the middle of my gambling addiction I would hope that someone would come into the casino and tell me to go home. When I want to clean up a mess in my life I hope that someone would hold my hand and sit with me. When I published my book, Numb No More, I wanted other people to tell me that it was good.

Where does that leave me?

Looking for someone else to save me from the world lets me know that I’m not good enough. I felt like I couldn’t do it on my own. That’s silly, isn’t it?

When I stopped gambling it wasn’t because anyone else rescued me. I made the decision to take care of myself. I quit when I was ready to become my own hero.

I wanted to stop playing because I wasn’t feeling well or because I had something else that I wanted to do. My life became less dependent on whether or not I was fighting with my boyfriend and more about whether or not I wanted to feel better because I didn’t like being so miserable.

I will tell you how I did it in my next post.

Things to think about:

  • How are you waiting for someone to come save you?
  • How much better will your life be when you choose to save yourself?  I invite you to really dream about this one…get into the emotions of how you will feel.

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  1. Roger

    As always VERY thought provoking. How true it is that we run through life looking for our hero and savior, it seems so distant and difficult. But as you say the moment we stop and look inward to the real hero, peace and harmony were with us all along. Thank you, for today (with your insight at the top of my mind) I am choosing to be my hero and that can only spread through out my relationships. I give to me so that others can find happiness beside me. Thanks for sharing and caring.

    • janecares

      It’s wonderful that you are choosing to be your own hero! I am certain that you will notice many positive changes in your life from here on out.

      I love the way you said that – “I give to me so that others can find happiness beside me.” Beautiful.

      Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts Roger!

  2. If the airplane is going down, we first put the oxygen mask on ourselves, then we help the person next to us. If my personal “airplane” goes down, who is going to be there to save me? The person sitting next to me? No… I’m the only one who can save myself. So I need to take care of myself first before I can take care of someone else. I can only rely on myself, to be my own hero… Thank you Kim, for your beauty, honesty, and inspiring words. I am SO looking forward to reading your book, Numb No More! Blessings.

    • Kim Pottle

      Beth, that’s it exactly! I love the oxygen mask analogy (I luv to fly). Especially since it’s a good thing to be able to breathe…

      You’re welcome. It is truly an honor to be able to share and grow with you.

      Thank you for taking the time to be with us! Would you consider coming back to let us know what you thought of the book?

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